Most of the leaders I coach are somewhere between 45 and 60, and they've spent twenty-five years getting very good at pushing through. Everyone around them calls it dedication. It's the skill that built their careers, and it's why people still call them when something breaks. What they notice now, if they let themselves, is that the pushing costs more than it used to. They're more tired at the end of a normal week, shorter with the people at home, and the work that used to

When Thomas Droge realized he was having a heart attack, he drove himself to the hospital and left the car running in the parking lot. He's a doctor. About fifteen minutes into it, he understood that this could be the moment three generations of men in his family had gone through; he was six months from the age his father was when he died, and his grandfather before him. And he still drove himself. If you've built a career on being the person who handles things, that reflex p