Most of the leaders I coach are somewhere between 45 and 60, and they've spent twenty-five years getting very good at pushing through. Everyone around them calls it dedication. It's the skill that built their careers, and it's why people still call them when something breaks. What they notice now, if they let themselves, is that the pushing costs more than it used to. They're more tired at the end of a normal week, shorter with the people at home, and the work that used to

Most of the executives I coach got where they are largely by reassuring their teams. They're good in a crisis and good at keeping people calm. What they don't always see is that calm has a cost when it isn't real, and I didn't see it for a long time either.

Saturday morning, I walk to the farmers market with a list in my head: salad, tomatoes, kale, cheese, sausage, enough food for the week. I'm moving fast, eyes scanning stalls the way I'd scan a grocery aisle, and I get everything on the list in about twelve minutes. It's efficient. I also walk right past a little New Orleans-style jazz ensemble playing near the entrance without really hearing them, and I don't see a single person the whole time. If you've spent years buildin

I’m an immigrant which means I chose to call America home. This year I'm holding on two things that don't cancel each other out: I’ve been able to build a life and companies that I couldn't have built anywhere else, and I'm more worried about where this country is headed than I've ever been. These are the same concerns, I’ve been hearing from almost every executive I coach.

While I was loving Kade without any expectation of who he would become, I was not doing the same for my oldest child. I was doing what a lot of parents do, especially parents who have achieved some professional success and are still carrying their own unresolved stuff. A lot of my ambition and struggles have been driven by trying to prove my worth to my parents, and, without realizing it, I was passing that same dynamic on to my own kid. Our children don't learn from what we