What happens when the life you've built starts to feel disconnected from the person you're becoming?

I don’t know how this past year was for you, but for many of us, it was unsettling. Tumultuous in ways we didn’t expect. The kind of year that looks at your carefully constructed life and asks us questions on who we are, what we value, and what’s no longer working.  And while that kind of year can leave us feeling disoriented, it can also open up space to reflect, to learn, and to grow in ways we never would have chosen, but apparently have to deal with anyway. 

At some point in our 40s or 50s, a question begins to surface: Is this really it? We’ve played the roles, built the career, supported the family, stayed the course. But at some point, the math stops adding up. That was true for me in 2025. And as I talked with others this year, clients, friends, and guests on The Midlife Remix, I realized just how many of us are navigating the same issue. This year, I wanted to step back to reflect. To look closely at what shifted for me,

In midlife, many of us begin to feel a tension between seeking comfort and security—staying with what we know and what feels predictable in our work and lives. Another part of us desires growth and change, not just for novelty but to live and work more in line with who we truly want to be. What seems responsible is often simply what feels safe. The real challenge is recognizing when responsibility shifts from a genuine choice to a way of choosing security over alignment.

We’re living through a moment where the systems many of us relied on, work, institutions, routines, and expectations, feel less stable than they once did. The shift isn’t personal; it’s structural. Technology is accelerating everything, institutions are strained, and the traditional indicators of security no longer apply in the same way. People feel this in their careers, their identities, and the choices they’re being asked to make in midlife.

We hear the word 'midlife'  and immediately think 'crisis' . The sports car, the divorce, the panic that life is over. But what if midlife isn't about falling apart, but about finally understanding what is important to you in life? Over the past year on the podcast, I’ve spoken with people who’ve done precisely that. In this episode, I feature conversations with Larry Kihlstadius, Paul Hatch, Kim Mustin, and Mike Ma.  They stopped pursuing someone else’s idea of success and s

In this week’s Midlife Remix, I sat down with Paige Scott, Senior Partner and leader of the Asset Management practice at Kingsley Gate, to talk about the crossroads many Gen X leaders are facing: career transition, changing values, multi‑generational teams, and the courage it takes to live and lead from alignment. Below are the core themes from our conversation, the questions I’m asking clients right now, and a simple practice Paige swears by to re‑center your path.

“The people whose identity is tied to their work… when that work goes away, many get lost. For them, work is purpose, importance, growth, learning, making money. But once it ends, they’re stuck. The only difference between a rut and a grave are the dimensions.”“The people whose identity is tied to their work… when that work goes away, many get lost. For them, work is purpose, importance, growth, learning, making money. But once it ends, they’re stuck. The only difference betw

“I was afraid the whole thing would collapse. That I’d have to tell the people who trusted me that I lost their money. I was under pressure. And I wasn’t s

He rebuilt his career as a portfolio of roles: consulting provided stability, teaching gave him joy, and experimenting with emerging technologies stretched his curiosity and kept him future-ready. In every era, there is a “curve” leaders must learn to ride, and today that curve is AI. It is moving faster than most of us can process, and it is already redrawing the boundaries of entire professions. The same curiosity that pushed Yogesh to walk away from corporate life is now m

Leadership has always involved guiding teams through uncertainty, making tough decisions, choosing priorities, and building on years of experience. Artificial intelligence is transforming how we do this work by changing the pace and tools available. We will always need leaders, but the real question is: which leaders will develop the skills to select the right priorities, understand AI, and leverage it effectively in an AI-driven world?

A few years ago, everything looked right on the surface: a respected title, solid compensation, and a seat at the table where decisions were made. It’s the kind of position I once thought I’d wanted. But instead of feeling fulfilled, I've noticed a feeling of restlessness.. I question whether I’m growing, whether I’m aligned, and if this is it. I’ve started to see that some of my decisions haven’t been fueled by purpose, but by a fear of losing what I’ve worked so hard

At some point in your career and in your life, you start asking different questions. Not How do I get ahead? But What am I building? Not How do I lead others? But Am I leading in a way that actually feels like me?

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There’s a feeling of deep melancholy in our generation and a low-level, underlying sense of discomfort that doesn’t always scream for attention, but it’s real. And it’s often the first sign that something deeper needs to shift. For many Gen Xers, it’s the realization they never got to where they thought they’d be, and they quietly carry that disappointment. For others, it’s worse: they got there, did everything right, and discovered they don’t even like what they are doing. A

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